For too long in our society, introverts have played second fiddle to the extroverts among us, and even in 2024, many people still see introversion as something to counteract. Is your child an introvert? If so, what does that mean? Read on to find out.
What is an introvert?
Being introverted is not the same thing as being shy! Introverts are often confident people. They can be terrific public speakers, and great leaders. So what is an introvert? Imagine two people attend a busy family event packed with people, where there is loud music and constant conversation; one of these people is an introvert and the other an extrovert. They may enjoy the party equally, and both engage with others throughout the event. However, the extrovert will feel rejuvenated and energised by the experience. The introvert may feel drained by the time the day ends, and inclined to need time alone, in order to recharge.
Why being an introvert – or having an introverted child – is something to celebrate!
Introverts are generally thoughtful, emphathetic, sensitive people. They take the time to consider a situation before jumping in, which means they are less impulsive. Their leadership styles are often more collaborative because they are less likely to feel a need for the limelight. Introverts often have rich inner lives. They work well alone, and can be self-motivated, since they are less likely to need others to validate their ideas. Introverts may not take naturally to public speaking, but with encouragement they often do this as well as – or better than – extroverts.
Some of the world’s greatest thinkers and doers are introverts. Often introverts make – and form – the very best friendships because their relationships tend to be deep and meaningful.
How to support an introverted child
Introverts do require understanding from the adults around them. It’s important that parents teach them to resist being labelled as ‘shy’. A introverted child may also need some encouragement to join louder, more boisterous activities, and may take more time to adjust to new situations. But perhaps the most important skill we can teach an introverted child is the importance of recharging. Needing time alone is not the same as lacking social skills! If an introverted child needs to withdraw after a busy activity and spend time alone, perhaps with a book, or listening to music, or watching a movie, this should be encouraged. The ability to fill our own time is vital for all of us, but most important for introverts.
Finally, remember that introverts are capable of anything!
Your child is just as likely to excel in leadership as their extroverted friends. Introverts can be public figures, debaters, speakers, performers and the life and soul of a party. Initial fears may temporarily debilitate (after all, introverts can think things through a little too much!). However, introverts are capable of anything they set their mind to.
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